My husband admitted he fancies his half sister?

he has recently found his 2 half sisters (only actually knew they existed for about a year tho - they knew about him all their lives) and we all met up and it was fine. During the last 2 weeks tho he has met up with one of them a few times just the two of them and she has been to our house when i was in work. I had a funny feeling about this sister from the start cos she was very quiet unlike the other one. I was suspcious so read his texts and found loads - he was being really full on and emotionally intimate with her, he'd also phoned her once the same day they'd met up later on.

Then the other night we argued cos I was uncomfortable about her coming to my home and he admitted that he had lusted after her and she was on his mind in that way, although he promises nothing has happened. She seems to be avoiding him since the last visit so i think she is freaked out as well. I dont know what to do - we are both distraught. Our marriage was a bit shaky anyway cos of trust issues on my part and intimacy issues on his but can we survive this? I feel like jumping off a bridge

Please - sensible answers only

i think its just like its his sister so he can open up more. when children are spearated like this their feelings get confused

I have felt like jumping off a bridge-it does not help.
Contact this woman and tell her in no uncertain terms to back off-he won't
She should be ashamed of herself for leading your husband on in this way-is she married?
Men are weak minded creatures and like their ego's to be massaged I suspect this is what has happened.It is just infatuation.
Don't worry-heads up.!!!

Discovering you have relatives you didn't even know about is an emotional thing, please bare this in mind. As we grow up we establish from a very early age that are brothers and sisters are family - nothing more in that sense, but your husband hasn't had the chance to establish that familiarisation. And with all of these little cracks in your marriage he is suffering emotionally, this half sister thing is confusing his mind and pushing him over the edge - never mind you wanting to jump off a bridge, support your husband. He needs you to tell him you love him and will support him through this difficult time - he needs you more than ever.

I hope this advice has helped, just put yourself in his position and constantly think to yourself "How would I feel in his shoes?" : )

wOW...Just pray. Pray for guidance. Pray for redemption. Pray to be able to forgive. I know it's diffcult. He probably had a hard time actually making the connection that they are related. God Bless.

just remember you have done nothing wrong and when you feel like you are the freak just remember your husband is incest
I am not joking the same thing happened with my uncle and aunt my uncle and mom had a half sister when they were 15 and my uncle has basically overly liked her since then so like lol 30 years and my aunt is totally uncomfortable with it but my mom (uncles sister, auntys sister-in -law) always clams her down and tell her my uncle is too uglay but dont worry find another member of the family to chat with about the situation and see if they can change his mind
like someone who he cant get too mad at or break with such as his parent or other sister or even the other half sister
Just whisper these words to your self "Incest, Incest"

Wow... that is really sick of your husband to have thought of his sister like that. It doesnt matter how long he knew, he knows now. And a year is a long time to know someone anyhow. I think I would be sickened by husband and leave him.

Very difficult situation. He finds a half sib and gets those loving thoughts we have for sibs. He recognises she is only a half sib and the thoughts blossom into something else. Is this lust or is it love and is there a need for intimacy that goes beyond what is acceptable. There is a blood line there that makes this incest.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Incest

The Bible, Leviticus, 18-20 lays down the boundaries and they are there for a reason. Emotions are raw in this situation and you must be feeling threatened because someone has come along who has an emotional bond with your spouse and who has attracted him. The rockiness of your marriage will not help rational thinking. You need to discuss how many people are going to get hurt here, are these sexual thoughts he's having and can he have a normal half sib relationship or should he distance himself from this person for the sake of his marriage and you?

Wow ok... Well can you survive this, Yes you can but its going to be a long road. First the sister thing isnt that completely outrageous, Yes i can see how you would be disgusted but in reality it is just another women to him that he just met. However the fact that he is going behind your back to have a relationship with her is completely wrong no matter who she is! You need to seek help from a counselor, he needs to end ALL communication with her (change phone number etc). You guys should look into maybe a marriage workshop together. You both have to be willing to work and change to make this work... I hope things work out for you and good luck!

I've seen a couple of documentaries on this subject where someone will find their long lost sibling and because the connection is so strong they start sleeping together.

I know that will freak you out but number one you need to sit your husband down and or suggest counselling as it can be a big shock when someone new comes into your life like this.

He needs to realise whats going on before its too late ... its your marriage your talking about.

You need to consult a divorce attorney, whether or not he has actually consummated the relationship it is still grotesque on many levels and you do not need that in your life.

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